If you have listened to Zim Ngqawana’s amazing song, Ebhofolo, you will realize that he perfectly captures what Twitter, as a social media platform can be: indawo yamageza, a place for lunatics. This was evident in how Simphiwe Dana ended up being a casualty in a discourse about holding perpetrators, enablers, and cushions of abuse accountable for their filthy actions.
From what I gathered: Simphiwe Dana (SD) was dragged after a published story about her having rescued an alleged abuser [named Mohau from a tricky situation] had gained momentum on Twitter.
It was later discovered that Mohau (M) had been abusing his girlfriend and the incident that transpired at the airport was just one of those moments that were supposed to be a turning point. Simphiwe Dana rescued M after being informed by her sibling that M was jailed in Kenya and as a result, had his passport confiscated.
After the whole truth was revealed, Simphiwe Dana corroborated with the alleged victim with the aim of laying criminal charges against M. She also outed the alleged abuser for his actions. The victim flipped on SD by joining forces with the abuser and released a statement that watered down the abuse claims, calling SD a liar. This is not an unfamiliar case at all, as many victims normally struggle with exiting due to the complexities of abusive relationships.
Simphiwe Dana reached out to one of the Black Twitter leaders of that day, Twitter user @Penxenxe (P), and explained how she assisted a friend (the abuser), based on a half-baked story that the abuser had presented to her sibling. She was making it clear that she did not knowingly rescue an abuser from being accountable or prosecuted, as many had believed.
What seems to have frustrated Simphiwe Dana more is that even after she reached out to explain her side of the story, no corrections were made by P and the black twitter leadership version of the story continued to pollute the twitter streets.
I’m of the opinion that Simphiwe Dana [at least] expected Penxenxe to also mention her side of the story on her TL so that the misunderstanding could be aborted with immediate effect, kujongwe undoqo, the abuser. But that did not happen.
As soon as she got to know about the full abuse story, Simphiwe claims to have made amends in some possible ways, although it was too late. She later published her side of the story on her twitter page.
I believe that Simphiwe Dana was not entirely wrong for raising the issue of being unfairly vilified, yesterday. It would have been bad had she raised it the previous day when the room was very tense and messier. She clearly read the room well. It became evident that she had been feeling aggrieved ever since that incident transpired. The Boniswa incident was just a trigger.
My take has been that we always play at the hands of abusers by allowing such drastic diversions to thrive, where we end up dealing with everyone else BUT the alleged perpetrator or confirmed abuser.
Many of us are hypocrites that fear the “grootman” or the “starring”, and we would rather deal with the grootman’s security guards and lapdogs. That is how we end up getting lost in the center of the midst.
It is like how we dragged Masechaba too early and Mampintsha saw a gap, divided, and conquered, by labeling uMasechaba “isandla sesithathu”. This gave others ammunition to conclude that Masechaba was “umgudluzi wezithandani”, and the script quickly flipped bizarrely. I note this is a common trend: especially when we fail to come up with gaslighting questions for the victim to respond to.
Are we ever going to focus on fighting the main cause, instead of increasing the rate of casualties in the process?
By Thando @VhoTurnDoor.