Oasis Church (family church) in the Umlazi Township, South of Durban. This was just a year or so after their son Khaya Mthethwa was born in November 1987 – they were indeed blessed with Indodana who will eventually take up the reins, writes Buchule Raba.t was in 1989 when Senior Pastors Themba and Lulu Mthethwa decided to establish
The Senior Pastors then pursued the vision to see Umlazi and the Durban Metropolitan areas impacted positively by the Gospel of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and seeing people’s hearts set ablaze for the Kingdom of God.
Now, closer to retirement, who would want that vision to go to the dustbin while they are blessed with Indodana who can be groomed to be a Pastor? Not and never in the African culture!
Interestingly enough on the 3rd of February 2017, Khaya Mthethwa asked a very silly question addressing it to “ladies”.
“Ok, can I ask, ladies would u date a guy who was gay and now is straight? If yes, why? If not, why?”
As if one can be gay and decide to turn straight!
Was the pressure to take over Oasis Church already mounting from his dad? Because of the very same year, he asked this silly question, he got married on the 2nd of December 2017 to former Miss SA Ntandoyenkosi Kunene.
Now, my question is, what was Khaya’s business when he asked this question? What was he trying to say about himself or achieve? I’m of the assumption that he knew there was pressure for him to get married and he asked it for the sole purpose of comforting himself. He wanted the approval of what he was getting himself into.
Khaya Mthethwa being groomed to take over Oasis Church as a family church, he knew that whether he’s straight or not, he had to get married in order to lead the congregation by example.
Now, I would imagine the conversation that might have went down between Khaya and his father when it comes to keeping the family legacy within the family. Obviously, it wouldn’t be easy for the Mthethwas to allow an outsider to come and lead a “family” church. Would it be?
His father would have approached it along these lines, ‘My son, I am going to retire soon and you need to continue the family legacy by leading our church. In order for you to do that you need to start your own family. This would enable you to lead by example. Khaya you cannot lead young couples into marriage as a Pastor if you’re not married yourself’ – did Khaya decide to fool himself, succumbed to his father’s pressure with dishonesty perhaps? And decided to get married?
In December Khaya Mthethwa was addressing the congregation at the Sandton branch of Assemblies of God where he said he told his father that the whole pastoring thing was “pre-mature”.
He said this because according to him he’s still “young” and has “hot blood…”
What does that have to do with being married? Leading a church? How many young Pastors do we have? Should I say this was just a lame excuse? Or perhaps the marriage was making the closet more boiling? Don’t get me wrong, well, I am not saying Khaya Mthethwa is gay nor straight, not even implying he’s gay at all because I personally have no proof of such about the “Pastor”.
Addressing the Assemblies of God, the young Pastor said, “I had huge struggles in my marriage. The last two years… You want to talk about the Gram (Instagram)… You want to talk about how we look good on the red carpet, how we look good on Instagram…”
Judging by the statement above, Khaya knew his marriage was a sham from the onset but with dishonesty and respect for his parents, including the family legacy (Oasis Church), well, he allowed it to happen. Ntando Kunene didn’t happen in that marriage, but Khaya happened.
He continues, “I am not here to play. It’s easier to leave but harder to cleave… When I said to God I don’t think I wanna be married anymore, I told God that in January (2019).”
Yet for the entire 2019, he stood “tall” in that marriage and “embraced” his wife, while he was standing a very short man inside. He was burning! He blind-folded South Africa, including his folks and his congregation, to a point that both he and the wife celebrated openly their 2nd-year wedding anniversary in December the 2nd of 2019!
In the video, he acknowledged that the marriage was “really amazing” but at the beginning of 2019, he had told himself that he was done with the marriage, alluding that he had “serious” issues when he went into the marriage.
Serious issues? Hear me okay, hear me right and feel me come! Don’t we have marriage preparation counselling? Isn’t that set up to address these “serious issues” he’s babbling about? Come on Khaya! Don’t allow yourself to be transparent more than you are. I can definitely watch television through you, while you are standing right in front of it.
When it comes to the so-called “serious issues” he said he’ll address them with guys alone before they get into marriage. I am certain one of those issues will be, ‘know yourself before you get into marriage and or be honest with yourself’.
“I told my parents… I’m like listen my guy (his father) this whole Pastoring thing was pre-mature, you better agree. I lead a church of 5000 and a half thousand members. I told them (parents) like listen this whole church thing it’s not it’s gonna be a big problem. I’m a young man and I’m hot blood. I still have to sort things out in my life…”
What does the above blah blah blah have anything to do with leading a church of more than 5000 congregants? I mean, he can have assistant Pastors when he wants to go about his business! In any church there’s what we call ‘delegation’ like as in any company, even at home we delegate tasks to different people that are capable to pursue such. Ntando never happened but Khaya happened in that marriage. He must not and never fool himself like this.
Since Khaya’s days of Idols SA, there’s been a rumor mill that he’s betting for the same team, of which there’s nothing wrong but to hurt people along the lines because you want to make certain people happy is not okay and never alright.
Leaving marriage and the church at the same time, well, he’s aware that he’ll not lead that church without Mam’ Fundisi and clearly he doesn’t plan to have another one soon or ever!
“Grace carried us here and by grace, we will carry on. Happy 2nd anniversary my love,” Ntando on their wedding anniversary.
“God is forever faithful, nothing is impossible with God,” Khaya Mthethwa on their wedding anniversary.
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