Lady Zamar says she was abused verbally and once sexually. Saying she was used, lied to and cheated on by her ex-boyfriend Sjava, real name Jabulani Hadebe.outh African musician and songwriter
“I was abused (verbally and once sexually) and used. I was lied to and cheated on. Did I know? No. Did people tell me who knew? Yes some, got inboxes and calls,” says Lady Zamar.
Taking to social media she says that Sjava’s friends protected him.
“Everyone says to keep quiet, being is quiet is classy, saying nothing is cool.. you know Twitter is a negative place… that’s the advise I’m getting. People focus on the music, forget about him, but how can I when y’all make it so hard… you think I write about him,” says Lady Zamar.
She claims that on Sunday she was invited to perform at some events and Sjava’s wife was also coming to the same event.
“I’m only responding coz I’m exhausted. I’ve moved on long ago and (yerrr) I’m still dragged into that messy man’s life. What must I do to get you guys to stop with the tags and mentions? If I was a normal girl who no one knew I’d be left alone but because I’m in the public.
“You guys are exhausting man.. I’ve been saying… Your precious Zulu man is a liar and a cheater. Cheers to every person that didn’t believe me when I told them that nigga’s married… Because in your face.. mxm y’all are exhausting… now y’all wanna drag me because I didn’t know,” she says.
She also claims that Sjava lied about his marital status.
- Was I loved? No
- Was I hurt ..? Yes
- Is it true? Yes
- You’re looking for attention? No
- Did you love him? I thought I did
- Where you afraid of him? Yes
- You’re not over him? I wasn’t into him, to begin with
- Did you think you loved him? Yes
- Where you abused? Yes
Lady Zamar further says that she doesn’t talk with “him” and she honestly forgave him because she would die if she didn’t forgive him.
She says she couldn’t tell anyone because she was ashamed and never confronted her abuser.
Started therapy for about 8 months coz I thought I was going crazy, started having nightmares and nervous breakdowns.. it was hell.. my heart would especially break every time some I loved, respected, admired would tell me how how amazing he is.. I was devastated..
— MONARCH?? (@Lady_Zamar) October 29, 2019
“Can you believe for 5 months I couldn’t look at this person because of sheer fear. But hey it’s over now,” she says.
On Wednesday Sjava topped the trends list on Twitter, claiming over 27k mentions. Sjava’s name was also trending under the #menaretrash.
Although Lady Zamar kept on referring to “him”, South Africans went all out to mention that it was Sjava and she also shared screenshots that named him.