“The first lie was that “we are together when you got the call from the paper”. The second is that I am “your Phelo,” wrote Phelo Bala.
Phelo Bala wrote that he can’t afford a PR spin so he’ll leave it with this: “The fact that the truth is complex is not an excuse to resort to comfortable lies. Lies can disguise themselves as truth but eventually, the truth comes to light.
The assumption is that “my Phelo” was Moshe Ndiki’s way of sweeping dirt under the carpet, including saying he was with him when he received a telephone call to comment on the matter.
“The article made a number of allegations regarding alleged incidents between Phelo, and I, as well as the existence of protection order applications. Those are matters of a private nature and I have been advised that because there are pending court proceedings, I should not comment,” reads a statement released by Moshe Ndiki on Monday.
Moshe Ndiki has denied abusing Phelo Bala: “The most I am prepared to state at present is that I have in no way abused Phelo and am prepared to follow the legal processes to prove this fact.
“Anyone who has dealt with domestic violence knows how difficult it is to speak about their experiences and the shame attached to being a victim. I have been faced with numerous questions including these asking: ‘Why have you taken this long to say something? You’re so loud everywhere else about everything, why not this? You look and sound emotionally strong, so how did this happen to you?” said Moshe Ndiki.
Moshe Ndiki said that he was comforted in the knowledge that their friends and family know of Phelo Bala’s aggressive nature once he is under the influence of alcohol and has had a few drinks.
“I also have knowledge of his behavior from my own experiences. The angle taken in the article (Sunday Sun) and the allegations made in there are an attempt to humiliate me and are an extension of the abuse I’ve endured, even emotionally so.
“I’m deeply saddened there has been a violation of our private mediation on this matter. It is for these reasons that I chose not to expose our private differences,” said Moshe Ndiki.
Moshe Ndiki has asked to be afforded time and space to deal with the matter with those closest to him.
“For now, I kindly ask that I be afforded time and space to deal with these trying times with those closest to me, whilst processing what’s going on. I would like to assure you that this is not my nature and I would rather like to speak about this once I am ready, emotionally and otherwise, if at all I choose to speak on it,” reads Moshe Ndiki’s statement (below).