Ayanda Borotho and media entrepreneur and speaker Nobuntu Webster have found new love in dealing with women issues and leading women into understanding who they are, including knowing themselves.
“I was minding my own business when I came across a conversation between some guys and girls talking about ilobolo. Guy tells a girl “women must know their place especially after a man has paid lobola”. Its a narrative I come across all too often. There is still so much unlearning that we must do as a society, especially around our tradition and culture,” says Ayanda Borotho.
Ayanda Borotho says that we are a beautiful people with a distorted and manipulated history, which is unfortunate because women always bear the brunt of “culture”.
“Did you know that the way we practised lobola today is not only false in its representation but is also offensive to who we are as an African people?” asks Ayanda Borotho.
The duo says women were not treated as commodities. Africans did not put a value on human life.
Explaining the issue of Ilobolo, Ayanda says, “Ilobolo was a presentation of honour to the family. Men were not trying to prove that they could take care of the women (women could take care of themselves) and men knew this. The gesture of ilobolo was to honour the woman and her family for seeing him as worthy of her. A man understood that he had to earn his Queen, not buy her to own so he could do as he pleased.”
Ayanda and Nobuntu are encouraging women to know who they are.
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